is that stuck, mentally noisy state where you can’t access a clear “yes,” “no,” or “not yet”—because you’re juggling too many variables (fear, timelines, money, partner pressure, identity shifts, “what ifs”) at once. It feels like overthinking + emotional static, so you keep circling the same question without landing anywhere.

Signs: spiraling, doom-scrolling for answers, comparing yourself, re-running the same pros/cons, avoiding the convo/appointment, feeling rushed but also paralyzed.